What should I look for in a counsellor?
The most important thing to look for in a counsellor is someone you feel comfortable and safe talking to. This can be a very personal decision and it’s fine to trust your gut instinct. Your counsellor should also have a recognised academic qualification such as a Level 4 Diploma or equivalent. It is also helpful if they are a member of a professional body. In the UK there is the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) and the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP). Being a member of either of these organisations means that the counsellor must follow a professional code of conduct and work to a certain standard.
How long do I need to have counselling?
Counselling can be tailored to you and your needs. I would recommend a minimum of 6-8 weeks and I think it’s preferable to have 10-12 weeks. I can work in a fixed short term or an open-ended way and we can discuss your needs when we meet and throughout our sessions. However, it is ultimately up to you and you can finish at any time.
What happens in a counselling session?
Typically, in a session you would talk about whatever is bothering you. You don’t need to have a plan – anything that’s on your mind is fine to share. I will listen and sometimes ask a question to clarify my understanding of your situation or reflect something back to you so you can correct me if I haven’t got it quite right. Together we will build up a picture of what the issues are and how to move forwards.
How long will I have to wait for an appointment?
I don’t have a waiting list so if I have availability we can arrange to meet in the next week or so.
Can I have counselling if I’m not really ill?
Absolutely. Sometimes we feel that we are not struggling enough or that other people might have far worse problems than we do, but counselling can be beneficial for anyone that is experiencing some distress or wanting to overcome something in their lives.
What happens if I have to miss an appointment?
For counselling to be beneficial it is important to try to attend every week. However, sickness, holidays and daily life happens for all of us and sometimes it is simply not possible to come. If you know you can’t make a session you should let me know as soon as possible so we can see if we can reschedule. For cancellations with less than 24 hours’ notice there would still be a charge.